Most men are ‘invisible’ on dating apps— here’s how to stand out: psychologist
It’s a man’s world — except on dating apps.
A psychologist says a “vast majority” of men are “invisible” when pursuing romance online, with women only considering a small number of males as potential partners.
Dr. Orion Taraban made the claim on the popular “Diary of CEO” podcast before giving his tips on how dud dudes could level up to make themselves more eligible.
“Most men are wallpaper, and the world does not treat men very well when they want nothing from them,” Taraban stated, saying young males were at a particular disadvantage.
“It’s actually very difficult to be a young man, you don’t have what either women or more experienced men want or need, and you’re generally very disposable — and unfortunately we’ve seen that,” the California-based doctor added. “Young men have a very high mortality rate.”
Taraban claimed that women were more likely to swipe on men who appeared to have money or a specific skillset — selling points more attributed to older men.
However, Taraban — author of the new book “The Value of Others: Understanding the Economic Model of Relationships to Get (and Keep) More of What You Want in the Sexual Marketplace” — offered some advice to lovelorn lads looking for a lady.
“I think men can dress better, they can take care of their physical fitness, for some men it is as basic as hygiene,” he stated, saying women were also drawn to presentable guys on apps.
The psychologist said men should splash some cash on a couple of fashionable outfits to better attract attention and boost their confidence.
“By far one of the best things that men can do is just spend one or two thousand bucks to get, like, two or three really good outfits; you can just cycle through them when you’re dating,” Taraban said.
‘If you’re the best-dressed man in the room, you get, like, one free point,” the expert alleged. “Men just need to put some clothes on and get a better haircut, and they refuse to do that for whatever reason.”
For those fellas who may not be genetically blessed, the psychologist said it was important to appeal to a woman’s mind.
He said the sexes have “very different” communication styles — and men should learn how to converse on a woman’s wavelength.
“If you can learn how to talk to women in a way that she will listen and respond to, you will be able to do all kinds of things and have all kinds of relationships,” he declared.
“It’s a lot about vibing — feminine communication is very different to masculine communication.”
