Here I go again on my own?
Whether looking for love, shopping for pain on dating apps, going boy sober or slipping into celibacy, the stars may spell out how long you’ll spend in the sacred space of singlehood.
Hellenistic astrologer Ivy Underwood, aka @0degreesTaurus, points to what she calls “forever alone placements” in the birth chart. These qualifiers indicate that “it’s probably going to take you a long time to find your person, or you’re not going to get married for a while.”
What are these so-called forever-alone placements, and do you have them? Read on to learn more.
Leo and Cancer risings
As Ivywood explains, “Leo and Cancer risings experience long periods of singleness because Saturn rules your relationship house, meaning you’d rather be single than waste your time with people who aren’t marriage material.”
As a refresher, the seventh house is the house of partnership, also known as the marriage box. It represents our legally binding attachments.
Thus, having strict, time-taking daddy Saturn looming around is something of an oppressive raincloud on ye olde white picket fence.
Saturn is formative but not necessarily “fun,” meaning when it comes to marriage, you’re less likely to mess around and find out with a questionable partner — and more likely to hold out for the rock steady.
In the muck and mire of the meantime, Leo risings tend to pick partners who look good but aren’t necessarily good for them, and Cancer risings tend to go for people who need them in some way — a broken wing/codependent scene that leaves them ragged and resentful.
Both rising signs are meant to learn through and eventually rise above these tendencies. Bless up, babies!
Saturn in the seventh house
Similar to having a seventh house ruled by Saturn, having the planet itself hanging out there can equate to a waiting game.
Underwood explains, “If you have Saturn in the seventh house, then you’re probably not going to find your one true love for a while. People with Saturn here are usually late bloomers in love, and it takes you guys a while to commit.”
Better to wait for gold than settle for tin, folks.
Saturn bullying Venus
Saturn is the planet of restriction, delays and karmic debts, and Venus is the planet of love and partnership. Thus, when these two form a challenging aspect to one another, the game of love can be long and fraught.
As Underwood expounds, “If you have Saturn square Venus or Saturn opposite Venus, you’re probably not going to find your one true love for a while. Even if you do have relationships, you may find that these people are not marriage material, and you don’t want to be with them long term.”
Many astrologers suggest that those with challenging Venus/Saturn placements are better off waiting until after the threshold of their Saturn returns to marry.
But long haul or short term, divorced, throupled, blood-oathed or simply happy alone, it’s all a love story, folks.
Am I doomed?
Absolutely not.
These aspects do not mean you’ll never find love or you’re doomed to be alone but rather suggest love will take its sweet and bitter time and will likely dole out lessons that force you to level up — and perhaps trade in when it comes to partners.
Plus, as anyone who’s ever waited in line for a transcendent pastry can tell you, the longer the wait, the more enjoyable the spoils.
Underwood assures: “These are just general guidelines, and dozens of other placements in your chart can change your fate.”
And as no measure of pain nor purpose is without payoff, Underwood promises, “The good news is when you finally find your person, you will stay together for life.”
And to be fair, folks, at the rate at which human beings fail each other, a fate of single and satisfied bests committed and complacent every time.
Astrology 101: Your guide to the star
- The 12 zodiac signs
- What are the astrology houses
- Here’s what each planet represents
- Sun, moon, and rising signs: Get to know your Big 3
Astrologer Reda Wigle researches and irreverently reports back on planetary configurations and their effect on each zodiac sign. Her horoscopes integrate history, poetry, pop culture, and personal experience. To book a reading, visit her website.
